There are a few days/weeks in the month where you’re prone to feeling agitated, sensitive and a little off. Girl you know exactly what I’m talking about 😉 It’s entirely different for each woman. You might feel super stressed, riddled with anxiety before your menstruation. Perhaps it’s a few days in and you begin to feel awful, wanting to hide away from the world. What is it for you? Make a quick note in a monthly calendar and soon you’ll be able to recognise patterns and prepare ahead for those days. For myself, I take it easy on those days. I’m usually a little bit more bloated and sometimes a little too emotional (queue the tears, mugs of green tea and endless self-talk on showing compassion to myself).
As I’m aware of those days, I can gently hold the space for myself with compassion and love to allow the emotions to pass. For example, if I’m feeling sensitive and reactive to other people’s behaviour, instead of blasting myself for being too sensitive, I gently let the emotions pass. I understand that in these 3 days or so, I’m naturally going to feel much more sensitive and that’s okay.
2) Make Your Salah A Priority
Your salah is the bloodline of your imaan. The way you show up in Salah can also be a huge indicator to the way you show up in other areas of your life. Until you connect with Allah, you’ll be looking in all the wrong places to fill that void. Trust me all the yoga, meditation, self-development reading etc. comes nowhere near to the peace and inner satisfaction from lowering to the ground and bowing your head to Allah. It’s as though all of life’s worries washes away and you can finally surrender. It’s you + Allah versus the challenges in life. Your salah is the daily pit stop where you drop your struggles, 5 times a day and surrender to something greater than you. What could make you more happier than speaking to Allah?
3) Live Your Passion Everyday
Passion is the crux to living a happy, fulfilling life. Your passion isn’t this one magnificent, giant calling that requires you to drop your kids and sacrifice your marriage. Your passions can be anything from organising your home, cooking delicious yet nutritious meals all the way to sponsoring orphans, writing a book and sharing your message to the world. How can you embrace your passions daily? When you make the effort to do the things that light you up from within, you show up as a happier, radiant woman in this world.
4) Enjoy Your Own Company
This. Is. So. Important. Can you enjoy time alone without fretting over your kids (hello Mama guilt!) or fanaticising a romantic getaway to the Maldives? Of all the women that I admire (mentors + coaches), every single one of them are genuinely fulfilled and happy within themselves. Marriage, family life and friends are all wonderful additions to your happiness but they can never be the sole and only reason for your joy.
5) Feel Your Emotions
Did you feel a sharp tinge of jealousy scrolling down on Instagram, noticing the mother with glossy hair, supermodel thighs and obliques that’d put a fitness freak to shame? FEEL it.
Did it frustrate you that a family member made the same unwarranted remark about you, yet again? FEEL it.
Does it hurt you that you’re never acknowledged or appreciated for all that you do? FEEL it.
Feeling your emotions fully is the quickest way to heal it. Feel every inch of that jealousy/ hurt/ disgust/ disappointment/ rejection/ loneliness and only then will it pass. When you give yourself permission to feel your emotions without guilt or fear, you open your heart to healing. Too many women bury and suppress their feelings because they believe they ‘shouldn’t’ feel that way. That’s when your inner mean girl blasts you with thoughts like ‘all men are like that, you’re looking too much into it’ or ‘get over it, you’re being too sensitive’ or ‘you’ll never be like her, forget it!’.
Here’s the biggest kicker… until you heal that wound, it will always show up… again and again. (Oh I’ve been there!) Avoiding the pain, confrontation and discomfort, never makes it go away. Temporarily it might band aid your feelings but eventually the same wound will reappear. The solution? Feel it fully. Feel the full extent and intensity of your emotions, let it wash over you and gently let it go.
You need to feel to heal it 🙂
Every day I’m learning to make happiness my choice – I’m learning that nobody else in this world owes me an ounce of happiness… no matter who they are to me. In that comes the freedom and surrender that no matter what happens in your life, you’ll be just fine. When happiness comes from within, nobody can take it from you. The more you cultivate your inner happiness, the world will only mirror that right back to you. No coincidence, that the days I focused on making myself happy, my life reflected that back to me. And the days that I searched for it within people or materialistic things, I was never satisfied.
P.s.If you’d like to dig deeper, work with me 1-1 on strengthening your happy muscle and create a foundation for happiness that lasts – beyond the size of your bank account, beyond your relationship status or your waist to hip ratio, book in a free 30 minute life coaching session here – I can’t wait to meet you 🙂