6 Spiritual Lessons From Making Heartfelt Duas September 21, 2015
Making heart-felt dua’s changed my life. It was in the depth of my depression and uttermost misery that I raised my hands to Allah and cried my heart out. Every inch of my body was grieving. Every part of my being was shattered. My last and only desperate hope was through dua. I held so tightly onto my dua’s because truthfully that’s all I had. Nobody else understood the pain that I was going through. And I was nowhere near to speaking about it to anybody. So I turned to Allah and poured. my. heart. out. I’d spend ages crying, questioning, formulating arguments, getting angry, then furious, begging for help – all within my dua’s.
Looking back I’m a little taken back by some of the things I said. I hope and don’t think I’d say some of those things again but I never held back in my duas. (which was a good thing!) I said absolutely everything that was inside of me. After all, how can you not open up to the One who so perfectly and compassionately created you? Every ounce of your being is known to Allah, how could possibly not open your heart and tears to Him?
Dua has been a life-changing miracle for me. Within my conversations with Allah, there’s been so many ups and downs, so much confusions and tears but laughter too :))) It’s weird but I feel like I’m talking to my best friend. I could go on and on, complain, talk about how this happened and she said this and I was so upset and I can’t believe it….. and all that time Allah is listening. From this ongoing journey, I’d like to share a few pieces of heartfelt wisdom and lessons from this experience:
1. Speak your heart out.
I can’t emphasise this enough. When your speaking to Allah, say everything you need to. Open your heart and don’t hold back. Allah won’t judge you. In fact He’s the only One that truly understands what you are going through. When people nod their heads in agreement with you but their hearts remain unconvinced, just know that Allah is not like that. He truly understands what you are going through – so freely tell Him and seek His help.
2. Never give up.
When you’ve made sincere dua, your natural instinct is to be on the look out for it. Your natural instinct is to think ‘when will this dua come into fruition?’ Speaking honestly from my own experience, when I would make a genuine, heart felt dua and not see the outcome as quick as I’d like it to be, I’d feel a little disheartened inside. Especially when I poured my heart and tears into that dua – I’d feel gutted inside. But I came across this hadith which gave me an immense amount of hope:
It’s either this or better. Either your dua’s are answered or you’ll receive something unimaginably better. Stay hopeful, it’s coming your way.
3. Don’t obsess over it.
Linking back to the point above, part of making heart felt dua’s is genuinely expecting that Allah will answer it but also not obsessing over the outcome. This was a huge lesson for me. It was a spiritual lesson of learning to let go and hand over my doubt and fears to Allah. The fear of what if it’s not accepted, what will happen then, what will I do….. just gently drop all of it. Replace those doubts with trust. Trust that Allah will bring you to it. Allah will put you in the right time and place, so that your dua’s can come into fruition.
From my own life, I’ve realised that my dua’s are accepted when I’m least thinking about them. When I’m going about my day, busy with my work and suddenly the dua is answered. When I’ve finally dropped the worry that’s when it happens.
4. Pray for the unimaginable.
What is that one thing, you desperately want but it feels impossible that it’ll ever happen? Got it? Now go and beg Allah for it. Miracles do happen. They happen through the medium of heart felt, soul shattering duas. The dua’s that bring you to your knees, to that point where your eyes can cry no more and your soul can hope no more. That moment where everything inside of you is shaking and you are hanging onto Allah. That desperation, that trust and that unthinkable hope – that is where you reach breakthrough.
5. Dua is the only time you express your vulnerability to Allah.
That’s what makes it so special. Who else sees your most weakest and most desperate moments? When your making genuine dua, you present your most vulnerable state to Allah. It’s a beautiful thing. You express your neediness to Allah. It’s an emotional state that you rarely ever show to anybody else.
6. Persistence is key.
I’ve spent almost a year asking Allah for something that really mattered to me. I know of a sister who spent ages making sincere dua for a good spouse and a marriage (which she has right now.) I’ve heard of parents spending years making dua for children before being blessed with twins. With anything worthwhile in life, it takes time. So when you are making dua to Allah, keep that in mind.
So there you have it, 6 of my personal insights from making heartfelt duas. I would love to hear your dua lessons and stories. So many women read this blog daily and your story and input can have a huge impact on another person. So please share your insights below! Especially those magical moments where your dua was unexpectedly/expectedly accepted. I would love to hear them!
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Alhamdulillah Allah loves us…when we are in depress always turn to Allah and make istighfar. There are many benefits of istighfar. Sabr is very hard to go through. whenever we feel down make istighfar immediately so that syaitan not take advantage on us..always keep in mind Allah loves us.Thats why Allah distract us away from something we like or we planned. Allah is the best planner..masyAllah… all we have to do now is sabr n make prayer to Allah. Always smile even we are in pain or grief. Thanks for your post sis..it makes me feel happy n think positive.please make dua for me too..please make dua i will get a righteous husband that will lead me to jannah. 😉
This is so beautiful! The importance of dua is often overlooked or the genuine belief in dua isn’t always in our hearts. We make it because we know we should but often do so without that utter belief that Allah (swt) will take care of us. Being patient and accepting that my dua might be answered in a way other than what I expect are definitely things that I really want to work on!
Having that utter belief and being open to the numerous ways that a dua can be answered is key… Thank you for your support 💖
So true.. We always forget to turn to Allah when we are in misery.. We normally turn to people to help us until nothing can be done then only will we turn to Allah… The correct way is to first ask help from Allah through our duas .. Yes.. It is so true Allah’s help come unexpectedly when we least thought about it.. When we leave everything to Him.. He will certainly help us.. ?
Dua is the weapon of the believer! Subhanallah!
Dua is the weapon of the believers! Subhanallah!
These are all perfectly written and it’s the right time for me to read it. I need this so much! May Allah bless you for your good work, and for reminding us how important dua is.
JazakAllah khair ukthi.
Thank you for this beautiful reminder. You’ve inspired me to make dua in a way that brings me closer to him. Sometimes being shattered and in need is a blessing, in your most vulnerable times, we are reminded that only Allah has power over everything, and if he can provide sustence for every living thing on earth, such as birds etc, then how can he can not provide for us too. I’m reminded about his limitless mercy. Around four years ago,I was in a limbo situation with my current career. I knew I’ve always wanted to be in this profession but there was one thing that was in my way. Subhanallah I was shattered and I felt I had climbed mount Everest by the time I got to where I needed to be. But I realised one thing, Allah never left me alone, the more persistent you are with your duas, the more you keep coming back to Allah, he will always find a way out.
Thank you for the beautiful post- I felt like I was reading my own thoughts.
Subhan Allah, one of THE best memories/experiences I’ve had is making dua like you mentioned during a dark time in my life and then having that dua come true. As i enjoy the bounties of my dua i never want to forget how broken i was when I begged. love this
MashaAllah, what a beautiful post this is !
Wow MashAllah this post was really beautiful. I’ve been quite depressed lately and just never really felt like there was an answer to it, but I will definitely start doing duas from now. Thank you for sharing sister.
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Zeinab
Yeah definitely go for it. Thanks for reading and I really hope you feel much better soon. You’ll find an answer soon, so stay strong and keep going beautiful 🙂
never underestimate the power of dua
Absolutely 🙂
Beautiful post – dua is indeed very powerful and one should never give up hope as Allah is listening.
Yeah – always. He’s always listening.
JazakAllah for reading Sarah 🙂
Thank you for the wonderful message.it helps me to push more my dua to Allah even its impossible for me to happen.InshaaAllah Allah granted all our dua’s.
I’m so happy to hear that Maryam (beautiful name by the way!) Ameen, may Allah accept all of our dua’s.
I love reading about the power of dua.
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Masha’Allah great post.
Many expect instant results when it comes to dua but as you say it is not always immediate..we have to keep our faith
Yeah definitely – it takes time! JazakAllah for reading ❤️
I love the hadith which mentions that Allah is shy not to answer any of our duaa, it makes me want to make more every time I think of it:-) Jazakillah khayr for the beautiful reminder and tips.
That’s so beautiful. JazakAllah for reading ❤️
This is one of the most beautiful posts I’ve come across lately! Dua is so powerful, so helpful yet so under acknowledged. When we hear about the hopelessness of the refugees/any other crisis we say “all we can do is make dua” yet in that moment we don’t realise that ‘all’ we can do is the most powerful option anyone could have, if made with an open, pleading, and hopeful heart. Thank you so much for reminding me about the importance of making dua with proper etiquette. May Allah reward you immensely for the realisation you’ve brought upon me and, in sha Allah, countless other people.
Awwwww thank you so much for reading! Your absolutely spot on – even if dua is the only option we have, it truly is the most powerful option we have 🙂
Lets be honest when we want something we pray. Whether its lifting our hands to ask Allah or just in that moment our heart making a quick dua. We as humans don’t know if what we’re praying for is good for us when it comes to going further in our worldly aspirations. I think the best prayer to always include is “Oh Allah bring forward what is good for me and keep away what is bad, and replace that dream which can be bad for me with a new dream”. Always leave it to Allah as hard as it is to say its the only way you will always be happy even when something doesn’t go the way you wished. Marshallah I learnt from this post.
I love that! So true- the only way we’ll always be happy is when we leave it up to Allah. Funny how we forget the simple things that make such a difference. JazakAllah for sharing 🙂
Love it! We don’t place enough importance on dua these days, and focus too much on ritual worship over the spiritual side I feel.
Yeah absolutely agree with you Suhaila 🙂 Dua is so easily overlooked but really one of the most powerful things we have. JazakAllah for reading, so happy you love it!