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7 Habits Of Highly Successful Women

September 28, 2016

1) Gratitude

Gratitude to Allah is one of the most heart warming ways to connect with Him. It’s a way of expressing your deepest thanks for life. It’s this attitude of  “I’ve done nothing to deserve this” but His mercy and abundance outweighs all the good that we could ever do.

 How beautiful is it that Allah has blessed you with so much to be grateful for?  

Of all the people in this world, Allah choose you. You could have easily been the girl next-door swooning over the latest Shuyookh, infatuating over romantic relationships on Instagram whilst riddled with insecurities with practically zero ambition or zest for life. You could have easily been that girl. But you’re not. If you were you wouldn’t been reading a blog like this. I guarantee you that more women (+ men) are far more interested in getting back at their spouses, shifting blame,  fanticising over Instagram couples and millionaire lifestyles than actually working on themselves and consciously creating their dream lives.

Do you realise how special that makes you?

Even more so, Allah chose you to be that girl who breaks away from society’s norm. That girl who feels restless when she’s not following her truth. That girl who can’t sit through hours of mindless gossip because her soul is yearning for something greater.

2) Uplifting Female Connection

You experience this zest for life when you’re surrounded by women who uplift you. Bantering, having endless fits of girly laughter and ‘serious’ girl talk with my group of friends/family keeps me sane – seriously! 😉 Even speaking for an hour every two weeks over Skype with my life and health coaches makes me so happy and I leave feeling energised and excited. It’s so powerful. Positive company is infectious.

3) Reading/Studying

Cultivate the habit of daily reading. The first words of the Quran revealed to the Prophet (peace be upon Him) were “Read in the name of your Lord who created.” (Surah Alaq, Verse 1) Having a thirst for knowledge is the start to greatness. I don’t know a single, successful woman who doesn’t read. In every field be it alimiyyah/islamic studies, health, wellness, finance, parenting, homeschooling, counselling and so forth, the women who excelled in these fields were the ones who read tons upon tons of books.

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One of my fellow alimiyyah classmates is so passionate about Islam. It’s so heartwarming to see her strive and constantly study intensive scholarly books from the past. Have no doubt that her commitment to studying Islam surpassed us all. The knowledge that she cares within her and everywhere she goes is because of her dedication to intensive study.

4) Exercising/Movement

Daily exercise/ body movement is vital for your well-being and success. A few years back in ramadan, I decided to stop exercising whilst fasting as the days were much longer. Within 3 days of ramadan, I began to feel sad and low-spirited. No matter what I did I couldn’t get myself to feel positive, light and happy. For someone who’s generally happy and optimistic, experiencing 3 days of feeling like a fog had overtaken my body was so strange. My mind was racing with all the possibilities of why I was feeling like this. After all nobody feels sad or unmotivated during the first 3 days of ramadan. When I reflected over it, the reason why I felt so dull was because I stopped exercising. Needles to say I went straight back to exercising the next day. And the fog that had plagued down my body was gone too.

5) Nourish Your Body

Our relationship with food can reveal so much about what’s going on in our lives. If you’re fed on an emotional, spiritual and physical level, do you think you’d be stuffing your face with pot noodles whilst watching television? Highly unlikely. Successful women are able to look deep within and gather what’s really going on. It goes much deeper than the food. But that doesn’t diminish the importance of eating nourishing whole foods with loving thoughts.

6) Daily/Weekly/Monthly Planning

Whilst I’m not a fan of 10/15 year plans, I do believe in regular planning. You’ve got to have some sort of direction in life, otherwise you’ll end up anywhere.  Without a sense of direction, you could be living the same day for 30 years and it wouldn’t even occur to you. The key with planning is finding what works for you.

If you’re always on the go with constant changes and enjoy the thrill of meeting tight deadlines, perhaps a digital calendar synced on your phone and laptop would work best for you. If on the other hand you have a pretty relaxed schedule with much more consistency, a physical planner would be better suited for you. The last thing you want is to invest in a pretty Kate Spade planner only for it to look like your 3 year old niece has scribbled and doodled inside because of the constant changes in your schedule.

If you’d like an awesome free daily planner, sign up in the emailing list at the top of this page and I’ll send you a gorgeous planner to get you started with your day to day organisation. 😉

7) Self-love

I love seeing women excel in their roles as mothers, wives, entrepreneurs, daughters, job roles etc. What’s equally amazing is seeing a women who fiercely gives to herself just as much as she gives to others. That is incredible. We grow up believing that marrying our dream man will give us happiness. Working at our dream job with a fancy pay check will give us happiness. Or living in a beautiful house will give us happiness. But the truth is that these aspects can only enhance the happiness you have within. Once the initial delight and excitement dies down, eventually you’ll realise that the only person in this world that can truly make you happy is you.

Self love is a manifestation of that happiness that lies within. When you truly, deeply love yourself, there’s no way you’ll neglect yourself. There’s no way you’ll let yourself get down over a petty comment. When a woman supports and nourishes herself – she becomes unstoppable.

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  1. Maryam says

    October 6, 2016 at 6:35 pm

    There are a lot of things that I need to work on, like fantasizing over instagram couples for example haha. But on a serious note the relationship with food point is true. It’s something we often don’t consider important but it sure is. love this post

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  2. Amina says

    October 6, 2016 at 4:57 pm

    I agree with you, positive company is surely infectious even for introverts like myself. And it does not have to be in an invasive way, could be via skyping as you mentioned or networking/ events. I have grown in sooo many ways through connecting with the right people.

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  3. afreen says

    October 5, 2016 at 9:18 am

    All of the tips are so nice .Good post.
    http://www.afreenskitchen.com

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  4. Chelsea says

    October 5, 2016 at 1:57 am

    Yes I love all of these tips and especially number 3! It’s so important to continue to study, seek knowledge, and to always always be a student, even in your field of expertise. There’s absolutely always something to learn and we should never become complacent 😉

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  5. Iman says

    October 3, 2016 at 11:17 pm

    I love the emphasis on self-care and self-love – something I sorely lack! I keep trying to remind myself that I cannot pour from an empty cup!

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  6. Ayesha Farhad says

    October 3, 2016 at 6:30 pm

    What an inspiring post! Without gratitiude nothing is fulfilling!

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  7. Ayeina says

    October 3, 2016 at 7:09 am

    Gratitude gratitude gratitude. Can’t stress enough on this. Loved the way your client kept a gratitude journal. People should write it down in any way. Journal, diary, page. Anything. It makes a HUGE difference ❤

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  8. Lubna says

    October 3, 2016 at 6:49 am

    Living life on simple terms sounds so easy…..but practicing them in real life is challenging….those who can do it can achieve many things….

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  9. Shahira says

    October 1, 2016 at 9:26 am

    Planning and sticking to it is the hardest thing for me. It really is. Either I don’t have time to make plans (lol) or even if I do I just don’t stick to it. Are I really need to improve!

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  10. Raya says

    September 29, 2016 at 2:35 am

    Self-love is the last thing that we think about now-a-days I feel like. We live in such a fast-paced lifestyle that we forget about ourselves. This is such a great reminder!

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  11. Aishah says

    September 28, 2016 at 7:17 pm

    I love this post and definitely agree with the points you have made. Especially about reading. Seeking knowledge and just learning more is such a beautiful thing. <3 <3

    This is a great post mash'Allah! May Allah reward you!

    Aishah
    http://www.grainsandgains.com

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Desperation is a form of ingratitude to Allah.⁣ Desperation is a form of ingratitude to Allah.⁣
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It’s you saying with your heart and energy, that this moment isn’t enough. That you need more because what Allah has given you in this moment is not enough. That’s the energy of desperation. This external need for something out there to happen for you to feel calmer within.⁣
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Desperation (when it’s not genuine) doesn’t work. It creates a distance between you and your duas because all your focusing on is lack - that it’s still not here yet. It creates a distance between you and your heart - your mind becomes clouded with the thoughts of fear and lack. That you desperately need this thing to happen for your life to feel complete. As though what Allah has decreed for you isn’t enough. ⁣
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Yes you may not be where you’d imagined by now but what else can you do? Acceptance is acknowledging your feelings, letting yourself feel the disappointment, anger, hurt but submitting and surrendering to Allah. Yes it hurts but Allah does not abandon His creation.⁣
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You are not here for no purpose. This season in your life serves a spiritual/ emotional lesson, a means of healing that will support you in many times to come, even though you may not see it now.⁣
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Through acceptance, you stop desperately trying to run away from the emotional pain of your current situation.⁣
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𝟸. 𝘊𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘉𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘛𝘰 𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘏𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵 💗⁣
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You’re safe to be here. This moment is not lacking in any way because you haven’t achieved your goals or your duas are not here yet.⁣
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Come back to your heart and step into the truth of this moment. It’s coming back to the knowing that...⁣
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“Hold on a second, this moment is beautiful too. This moment is precious too.”⁣
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You give to your heart what you need most from out there. Keep drawing your attention within. Come back to you. When your duas + dreams come to pass, it will be a beautiful moment of joy and peace but this moment is beautiful too - because Allah has decreed it for you. ⁣
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In that state of wholeness, self-love, inner reassurance, things work out much, much faster and easier when you’re not suffocating the process 💗Continued below...
This magical practice will change your life ✨⁣ This magical practice will change your life ✨⁣
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Every day spend 10 to 15 minutes or so coming back into your heart. In those minutes, close your eyes (if possible) and draw your attention within. Connecting to your heart. Listening to what's happening within. Acknowledging whatever your heart is carrying today. As you bring awareness to the state of your heart, wrap it up with acceptance and gratitude. ⁣
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Are you yearning to be appreciated? Lean into that. Accept it for what it is. ⁣
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Is your heart bursting with love? Wrap it up in immense gratitude to Allah. Feeling it but not getting swept up by it. ⁣
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Did someone hurt you and you can't get over it? Yeah honey, you're allowed to feel that way. When you allow yourself to feel without any judgement or mind chatter, it begins to weaken. ⁣
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Do you recall the story of the Sahabi who was promised jannah for purifying his heart (from negative feelings) every night? Awe-inspiring, right? 💖⁣
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Coming into your heart, staying present in this moment is a deep form of surrendering to Allah. You're nowhere else but here. You're making peace with all that is within instead of running, avoiding, numbing or distracting yourself from it. ⁣
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Here's what so incredible, when you attend to your own heart, you stop looking for external reassurance. You feel no need to shout it on Instagram because you've validated what was within. ⁣
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You feel no need for people around you to step up because you've stepped up for yourself. Other people honouring your boundaries is not nearly as important as you honouring your own heart's needs. ⁣
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Those 10 to 15 minutes to yourself is so powerful and transformative. You find within what you were searching for out there. That's how you become magnetic to all of your desires and more ✨⁣
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1. Keep your self-love on point 💁🏻‍♀️💅🏻You can’t call in love/ miracles/ joy/ abundance if you’re hanging out in fear town. When you’re stuck in doubt/ fear/ lack, that’s all you become available for. There’s literally no room for love and abundance to come your way because you’re unconsciously committed to staying where you are. ⁣
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2. Make yourself a priority ✨ You are your number one. Soo cheesy, right? 😆 When you drop yourself at the expense of others, you abandon yourself. In doing so, you chase and obsess over things/people to fill that void within but instead you’re left feeling drained, hopeless and depleted. Your self abandonment is being heightened, amplified and reflected back to you.⁣
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3. What brings you joy? What makes you feel whole again? 💗 Nourish your heart and soul, because when you do you stop waiting and chasing things and people to give you that. In filling yourself up, you’re able to drop the neediness and surrender. And surrendering is the key to becoming magnetic to your desires ✨For every miracle you hear, there is always a moment of deeply surrendering and handing it over to Allah 💖⁣
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Without surrendering to Allah, you can't move forw Without surrendering to Allah, you can't move forward ✨💗⁣
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Without surrendering to Allah, you keep reacting to your current reality. You keep trying to meddle with the process. Or figure out the 'how'. But it was never your place to know how it'll happen. ⁣
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For you to up-level to the next stage of your life, stop reacting to your current one. Emotionally stop feeding into what you don't want. ⁣
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For that to happen, surrender to what Allah has decreed for you. When you accept the fear, it loses it's hold over you. There’s something in this moment for you. ⁣
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Some of the hardest moments of my life, where followed by some of the happiest moments. Because in that despair, you're able to find the strength of your own self-love. ⁣
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The moment you stop fighting your reality/ wishing it was different is the moment you can take on the lessons from it. The moment you stop fighting it is the moment you can choose something new. The moment you stop wishing it was different is the moment you can step into what you do want. Instead of fighting the old, you focus on building the new.⁣
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But it starts with surrendering to Allah. Not sweeping it under the rug. Not pretending it's not there by wishful thinking. ⁣
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It's saying "Okay, Allah this really, really hurts but I can surrender. I can accept it even if every part of me resists it."⁣
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To move forward, surrender. You can't build something new if you keep fighting with the past. You can't build something new if your stuck in the fear/ lack/ despair of your current situation. ⁣
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+ There's something in this moment for you ✨Know that Allah would never put you in any situation expect that it serves you. It's here because it's soo necessary for your spiritual and emotional growth. ⁣
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+ Allah will still bring you closer to your desires through it ✨ This isn't the end. Surrendering to Allah is not giving up. It's accepting this current moment so that you can free yourself from the pain surrounding it and step into something new. You've got to surrender, to move beyond it. It's knowing that this moment is a stepping a tone, a bridge of events not your permanent destination. ⁣
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Delays in your duas are wonderful opportunities of Delays in your duas are wonderful opportunities of healing ✨⁣
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See, it's not just about getting what you prayed for. Allah could make that happen instantly. You wouldn't have to wait. But there's a purpose behind every delay. An opportunity of healing.⁣
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Every delay serves a purpose - maybe it's so that you appreciate it fully for when it comes. Maybe it's calling you to heal the heaviest parts of your soul, the pain lingering from the past and societal conditioning that are taking you away from what you want. Maybe the wait is polishing your heart from attachment and need to none other than Allah.⁣
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This is a question that I've received many times. Do you keep making dua against all odds? When do you give up? I'm going to break it down for you as much as possible...⁣
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1) The State Of Your Heart Matters Most 💗⁣
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I can't tell you how many stories I've heard of women making dua "...please Allah don't let him get married again/ don't let him cheat on me/ if this is going to hurt me, don't give it to me..."⁣
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Yeah...the exact opposite, the very thing that you feared and desperately held onto. What you're saying with your tongue is also as important as the state of your heart in which you ask Allah.⁣
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Have you ever looked up into the sky, your heart stirred with deep emotions, misty-eyed. You didn't have to say a word but Allah heard you. Sometimes before you're even able to process those feelings into words, Allah answers your callings. That's the power of your intention and tapping into the state of your heart⁣
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You can't be saying with your tongue what your heart doesn't believe to be true. Words are easy - it's easy to say "... but I trust Allah, but I made dua". But does your heart align with that? Is your faith in Allah being carried through your thoughts, feelings and actions?⁣
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2) Release Attachment/ Neediness ✨⁣
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Attachment to the outcome is what keeps you stuck in your current circumstance. Its when you place your dua on a pedestal. Believing that once you get what you prayed for, you're no longer going to feel this pain. It's when your riddled with anxiety, resistance and fear. It's when your actions say "Allah, what you've given me today isn't enough, I need X to happen to stop feeling this pain/lack".⁣
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When you come from a place of ingratitude to Allah, it's no surprise that things aren't working out. When you place your dua on such a pedestal ( ie. a specific person/ wanting a child/ income and lifestyle goals etc.) that you forget how beautiful and equally precious the rest of your life is.⁣
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You're attached to the fear of it not happening. When so much of your heart and energy is invested in fear... keep reading below ✨
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