For me it’s an act of self-love and self-respect. You would never let your children run around in pyjamas for days on end, so why do that to yourself? Since when did life become so busy that taking care of the most important person in your life (hint it’s not your husband or children), become the least important task on your to-do list that barely happens.
Fashion Is One Of My Passions (Amongst Many Others):
When I first began to practise Islam in my early teens, I literally chucked away tons of clothing, all colourful pashminas except for black and gave away boxes full of makeup and beauty products. Whilst I loved the spiritual high of feeling that I was floating in the clouds, it didn’t last. Eventually I found myself in need of a lifestyle and character makeover. I wanted to be the girl that was practising + fashionable (where appropriate). I wanted to be the girl that loved studying deen – discussing matters of Usool, controversies in Fiqh, translating classical Arabic texts + hyperventilating over that gorgeous choker – bodycon dress, thinking ‘I need this now! where can I get it from!’ 😉
That’s the beauty of Islam. It doesn’t suppress a person’s nature but provides a framework from which to express yourself in i.e. there’s a time and place to dress modestly and there’s a time and place to strut your stuff 😉
You Can Be Eye Candy + Soul Food:
Gone are the days of women striving for success whilst they pile on the pounds and their wellbeing takes a toll. In my personal growth, one of the most wonderful lessons that I learnt earlier on is that you can be eye candy + soul food. It’s not intelligence versus appearance. Or taqwa versus beauty. You can have and be it all 🙂 There’s nothing more inspiring than seeing a woman who deeply nourishes her family, nurtures the world with her creativity and passion, devotes her time to fiercely connecting with Allah, yet takes care of her appearance too – she’s winning!
I Take Care Of Myself Better:
When I dress my best + feel my happiest, I’m less likely to trash my body with mindless snacking and lazying around all day. Dressing your best at home – even if you’re by yourself all day (+ albeit whilst nurturing little humans too), it has a ripple effect on the way you show up for your day. When you feel better, you’ll do better. Even if you do fall into a little slump (4pm sugar cravings maybe? ;)), you’re less likely to stay down.
I Love Connecting With That Little Girl Within:
That little girl within us all who loved playing dress up, who would spend hours flipping through magazines and fashion catalogues, dreaming of her perfect wardrobe with imaginative scenarios to wear them too. That little girl who would become hugely happy over a sparkly dress and ribboned ballet shoes. That little girl who was beaming with happiness – all by herself.
These are the reason why I love dressing up at home. Our society teaches you the complete opposite – present yourself neatly and polished to the outside world and jump into your comfort sweats once your home. For the records, I don’t even own a pair of comfort sweats/joggers/traditional home maxi’s… everything I write in this blog is because I absolutely believe and live by it. I hope this post inspires you to rethink the way you take care of yourself when there’s nobody around to impress. Share with me your thoughts in the comments below – I would love to hear them x